As I’m sitting here being idle with my thoughts. I start thinking about this military life and all that it brings. Just like anything there’s always up and downs, but lately I just wonder if anyone ever gets numb to this type of life. There’s no rhyme or reason to this, but simply just emptying my mind and writing everything out.
My husband works on a submarine and it’s a norm for him to be gone or underway for the better part of every year. There’s plenty alone time, you’re essentially a married woman living a single life.
Dinner for one.
Endless good-byes and see you when I see you.
Spending more time with friends than I do my husband.
Answering the many questions of, “where’s your husband at”
or “is he traveling with you?”
Things just getting darn right lonely.
It’s not done with just deployments; there’s still plenty of sea time between deployments.
We don’t have any children, but I can’t even imagine what it would be like to constantly tell your child where their father is.
For me, I eventually get numb to it all or it doesn’t phase me that much anymore is a better way to describe it.
And to be honest, I have no idea if that’s a good or bad thing.
Or even when someone tells me that I’m so strong for dealing with this? Am I? I don’t know.
All I know is that I love my husband and would do anything for him. I support him 100% and just want him to be happy with every aspect of his life. And he does and wants the same for me. All the bad/tough parts of living the military life is all worth it in the end because of who will always be there when those bad/tough moments are done. Isn’t that enough? To be honest, it probably isn’t for a lot of people. But it is for me, I rather have my husband in any way that I can than not at all. Where emails become our lifeline for communication, facebook messaging during port calls, or even a short phone call to revise our magical wishlist.
To the outside perspective, this seems crappy to deal with. I’m ok with it. That’s my life and it has become my new norm since we’ve been together. Like I mentioned earlier, it just doesn’t phase me anymore.
You just do it.
I don’t feel that it is getting numb to it so much as it is learning how we deal with it in our own way.
I have an enormous amount of respect for you, as does Military Husband. The life of a submarine wife is something you can’t even put into words for anyone. I only wish you, me and Julie all lived in the same time zone so we could all be getting drinks and laughing it up on the weekends! It stinks we make such great friends online and we are all in different places! 🙂
As of right now, Military Husband can take leave to give us time together for mini getaways and such. That’s going to change once we pcs because it will all be a new place and working his tail off to impress the new command. I still do deal with long hours….dinners alone….and weekends alone. And cancelled plans. Those stink. But like you, I just absolutely ADORE my husband and I would do anything for him and our family.
You are awesome lady and women like you are indeed doing a great service and giving a sacrifice for our country. God bless you both. xxoo
Thank you, I really appreciate your comments. I learned a lot our first year of being attached to the boat and after that I’ve become less worried? I’m not sure if that’s the right word to describe it. I know there have definitely been so many shitty days for the hub, there’s no fairy tale story. Just like in any military community. I was a tad bit worried to be so open about something and what the feedback I’d get. I was surprised but a few comments especially one that said it was sad article about military life. But I definitely don’t see it that way, I’m not sad, our whole situation obviously isn’t ideal, but I’ve accepted it and just dealt with.
Anyways, I do hope we meet some day! MUAHHHH!
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I think your last line sums up dealing with the military lifestyle perfectly. And I agree, I’d rather have my husband whenever I can than not have him at all.
Yeah it’s definitely one of those things that you just deal with. And I’ll take what I can get.