Military | The Way We Choose to Handle Things

You know, real talk, sometimes things that happen with this military life can be a ‘B’ and you know exactly what I’m talking about.

How about getting orders and having them change quite a few times? Even that time when everything’s all packed and you’re nearly ready to go and BAM, new ones.  Or that time during deployment, when they’re almost done and then you find out they’ve been extended for a few more months? How about that time when you’re nearly months away from getting new orders, but were told that your significant other will have to stay a bit longer than expected?

Now some of these I haven’t experienced personally, but I’m sure it has happened to several of you out there. And probably with different scenarios, but we all have mutual feelings when these things happen; frustration, anger, anxiety, the list goes on.

As frustrating as things can be, we have the power to control how we feel and handle whatever is to come. Within the past year, it has been quite the roller coaster of emotions and just getting this constant feed of change after change. My head was all over the place and at some points it felt like I was going to explode. After some time and long talks with my mom, I realized that I have to resort back to my old ways of taking things as they come, and to not stress about it.

The one thing that we have to realize is that we really have no control over these changes, they’ll happen at any given notice and that’s just the way it is.

We have no control over these changes, they'll happen at any given notice and that's just the way it is. Click To Tweet

And I know I’m not alone on this one, but we sometimes bring all over our frustrations onto our significant others. It’s like we just dump it on them and it’s not fair to them at all. They’re definitely more frustrated than we are and it’s their job. What happens to them is pretty much out of their control and most of the time, they can’t change the outcome of things. I’ve had so many discussions at home with my husband and I could always see how it affected him, but he always accepted things and moved on. And that’s because he had to.

I, as a wife, am my husband’s #1 supporter. It’s my job to be there for him, to be understanding of all the curve balls, and to not blame him for any of this. He’s already dealing with the madness of work, so he definitely doesn’t need any of my frustrations to top things off.

Lately, I have the mentality of always preparing for the worst, so that I won’t be disappointed in the end. And it has worked out so well for me, I have no expectations, my hopes won’t be shot down because I already prepared for it. It’s so easy to get caught up in the mess, but you just have to step back and take a breather.

Truth be told, his job is his #1, it’s his duty to our amazing country. He made the choice to be in the military and I made my choice to be by his side through the thick and thin. I will always support him in whatever he chooses, period.

Yes, I rant and complain (my mom gets an earful) about things all the time especially about our military life, it’s natural. But I always choose to accept it and move on from it. I just don’t want to spend all my energy on things that we can’t change.

The more we talk about something, the more power we give it to affect us.

The more we talk about something, the more power we give it to affect us. Click To Tweet

For all of you, that’s waiting for whatever’s next, it’s coming and you’ll get there. It may not be as soon as you want it to, but it will happen because it has to.